Understand Anger, and change it to its healthier alternative for your health & well-being.
We have all felt it before, lord knows I have, but what exactly is going on in us when is we are experiencing anger? What's the healthier alternative? And can we change Unhealthy anger to its healthier counterpart? I'll be sharing the answers to these questions with you.
Anger may be an emotion that we cannot remove from our lives, but the truth is that life is much richer when we learn not be reactionary and responsive to it. In not responding, noticing and naming the emotion we begin the diminish it of its power, giving us a greater sense of control well-being. Twofitting quotes on Anger from two inspirational people are:
"You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger"
"Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding"
Anger is a negative internal feeling state that is associated with rigid expectations, fantasies of revenge, and physical sensations such as muscle tension, rapid heartbeat and feeling warm. Anger is inferred from a point of view that the self or another has violated ones personal rule, or another poses a threat to one's self-esteem. It has also been described as temporary insanity.
Although anger does not always lead to a cussing match or a full on fist fight, aggression is almost always preceded by anger. Aggression, as we all know, comes with negative consequences in society and to ourselves such as loss of relationships, physically hurting someone or yourself, prison and death. However, when felt intensely, frequently, or for a long duration, anger in itself can lead to physical diseases such as high blood pressure and coronary heart disease.
We commonly bundle anger up into one big explosive emotions, but studies show that there are actually around 10 types of anger:
Assertive anger is the most constructive type of anger expression.This type of anger, you use feelings of frustration or rage as a catalyst for positive change.
Behavioural anger is expressed physically and is usually loaded with aggression type of anger is experienced when you may feel so overwhelmed by your emotions that you lash out at the object of your rage.
Chronic anger is an ongoing, generalised animosity towards other people, frustration with circumstances, and anger towards oneself.
Judgmental anger is righteously indignant – this type of anger is usually a reaction to a perceived injustice or someone else’s shortcoming.
Overwhelmed anger is an uncontrolled type of anger. This occurs when we feel that a situation or circumstances are out of our control, resulting in feelings of helplessness and frustration.
Passive-aggressive anger is an avoidant type of anger. In this is your usual mode of anger expression, one is likely trying to evade all forms of confrontation and may deny or repress any feelings of frustration or fury being experienced.
Retaliatory anger is usually a gut response to being confronted or attacked by someone else. This is one of the most common types of anger and is driven by revenge for a perceived wrong.
Self-abusive anger is a shame-based type of anger. This type of anger comes with feeling hopeless, unworthy, humiliated or ashamed, one tends to internalise those feelings and express anger via negative self-talk, self-harm, substance use, or eating disordered behaviour.
Verbal anger is often seen as less dangerous but it can be a form of emotional and psychological abuse and can deeply hurt the target of one’s anger.
Volatile anger seems to come out of nowhere, In this type of anger, one is very quick to get upset about perceived annoyances, both big and small.